No, Mr. Priebus, I Don’t Think That’ll Fix It………


Mike Huckabee is a nasty, vile little man.  He is an attention whore.  The fact that he is from my home state of Arkansas is yet another strike against him, since he shines a very unwelcome spotlight on a very backward state.  He draws in criticism on all of us who live here, and in turn those of us who are trying to live Blue in a sea of Red have to cope with a multitude of slurs and insults everywhere we go, both online and in real life.  We do not need any more bad publicity, Mike.  We have too much already. He has nothing whatsoever of value to add to any public conversation, and has not been relevant in quite some time.  I loathe the man, and I abhor pretty much everything he stands for.  I wanted to be absolutely, sparkling, crystal clear about that.

So I could tell you this………..

As much as I dislike Huckabee, I am equally opposed to the GOP platform and ideology.  Very little that issues from the right of center these days manages to be anything other than totally offensive.  Even when you allow for the embellishments of hype in the media, it is clear that there is indeed a war on women, children, families, the middle & lower classes, the disadvantaged & disenfranchised, non-Christians of every and no faith & set of beliefs and non-beliefs, minorities, and pretty much everyone who is not an elite, upper class, older white male.  The strong denials from the GOP on this just highlight their fractured and problematic relationship with the wing-nuts who have taken over in recent years.

They say they want to buff up their image.  The RNC’s  chairperson Reince Priebus was quoted in an interview with the National Review on Friday, saying that Mike Huckabee should be “the model for the GOP on social issues such as marriage equality and abortion.”  This not only does not improve their image, it reinforces everything that is wrong with the party.  No matter what the PR folks for the GOP churn out to rehabilitate their tarnished facade, every time these guys open their mouths, the truth slithers out.

The truth ain’t pretty.


Excellently put. So am I tired of hearing about it? Sure I am, and so is everyone else. You know what I am even MORE tired of? Living in it, and having sons growing up in it. Having a grown daughter living in it. Ignoring it and staying silent about isn’t going to fix it or make it go away. As long as the problem exists, we SHOULD be talking about it.

Rethink the Rant

TRIGGER WARNING:

The following includes descriptions, photos, and video that may serve as a trigger for victims of sexual violence.
Please be advised. 

Someone asked me today, “What is ‘rape culture’ anyway? I’m tired of hearing about it.”

Yeah, I hear ya. I’m tired of talking about it. But I’m going to keep talking about it because people like you keep asking that question.

Rape culture is when a group of athletes rape a young girl, and though there are dozens of witnesses, no one says, “Stop.”

Rape culture is when a group of athletes rape a young girl, and though there are dozens of witnesses, they can’t get anyone to come forward.

Rape culture is when a group of athletes rape a young girl, and adults are informed of it, but no consequences are doled out because the boys “said nothing happened.”

Rape culture is when a group…

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Be Part Of A Solution, Not A Problem…….


Very thought provoking. The Steubenville tragedy and subsequent trial shined a light on an ugly problem that occurs everywhere, all the time, to all kinds of people.

Nobody has the right to do anything, to anyone, ever, without their clear consent. A shake of the head means NO. A whisper means NO. An uncertain “I am not sure about this…” means NO. Silence means NO. Lack of consciousness means NO. Any kind of diminished capacity for understanding the situation means NO. A YES, given under any sort of fear, pressure, or duress, means NO. If the answer is not a clear YES, it is NO.

It does not matter whether the object of your desire is male, female, or transgender. It does not matter if they are straight, gay, bisexual, or any other sexual orientation. It doesn’t matter if you bought them dinner, or gave them a ride home, or picked them up in a bar, or met them running naked through the street. There is NO excuse, EVER, to rape someone else. If you rape another person, you are a rapist. You are wrong.

If you stand by while it happens, you contributed to the rape, and you are wrong. Nobody gets to be neutral in this situation. If you do not completely support the victim, you are supporting the rapist. You are adding to the problem. Slut shaming a victim is effectively raping them again. Outing their name (looking at you, news networks) to make it easier for others to torment them is assaulting them again. Making excuses for the rapist is assaulting the victim again. It makes no difference what they were doing, or where, or with who. What kind of person you think they are is immaterial. Whether you agree with their life choices is immaterial.

If you are not part of a compassionate solution, you are part of the problem. Period.

The Belle Jar

I don’t have to tell you that Steubenville is all over the news.

I don’t have to tell you that it’s a fucking joke that Trent Mays and Ma’lik Richmond, the two teenagers convicted of raping a sixteen year old girl, were only sentenced to a combined three years in juvenile prison. Each will serve a year for the rape itself; Mays will serve an additional year for “illegal use of a minor in nudity-oriented material.”

I probably don’t even have to tell you that the media treatment of this trial has been a perfect, if utterly sickening, example of rape culture, with its focus on how difficult and painful this event has been for the rapists who raped a sixteen year old girl then bragged about it on social media.

And I almost certainly don’t have to tell you that the world is full of seemingly nice, normal…

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All Alone In A Crowd……


Well said. Comments below were interesting as well.

Customer service is indeed dying, slipping quietly away while we are all held hostage by faceless, toneless, emotionless machines.

Robocalls. Automated systems instead of human beings at the end of almost every help line (and when you DO get a real person, what are the odds that they can understand your accent, or you theirs?) Self checkouts.

Geez. We are being isolated more and more every day, while remaining surrounded by others as cut off as ourselves.

Why Am I A Liberal?


I have posted before today of the chain of events that led to my dissatisfaction with the Republican Party, especially the ultra Conservative set.

In a great many ways, my own departure from the Republican mindset and journey to Liberalism mirrors this woman’s story. Very thought provoking. I refer to myself as a recovering Stepford Republican nowadays.

http://thebigslice.org/why-i-am-no-longer-a-republican/

Not all who need a helping hand are there of their own choosing  or in a dire situation of their own making.  Even if they were, I would still want to help them.  I cannot in good conscience belong to any party or ascribe to any set of ideals based on the core of I, Me, Mine.

I care more about my own family  and then my own friends more than I do for the rest of the world.  Of course I do.  Who doesn’t?  I don’t want to see those I love or have connections with suffer or do without.

That doesn’t mean I am not passionate about trying to make this world a better place for everyone, and working to assure that everyone, everywhere, has enough for their needs.  Who wouldn’t want that?  What kind of person only focuses on their own needs to the total exclusion of everyone else?  Not me.  Not anymore.  I am no longer a Republican, and I reject them.

They are lost.

If Not Now, Then When?


I can't think of anything rude enough to say to this man.  I really can't.

I can’t think of anything rude enough to say to this man. I really can’t.

This, of course, does not address why there is violence in churches, temples, and other nominally religious locations all across our country.

Okay, now I thought of something to say to Mr. Huckabee.

  • You are an attention whore, and an embarrassment to Arkansas.  Please go away.  You contribute nothing to any meaningful dialogue and your ignorance and intolerance shame us all.

This was a horrific event.  Every time something like this occurs, the Right screams about their rights.  They circle their wagons and point fingers at everyone else, blaming anyone who speaks up about the elephant in the room (ironic, really) for politicizing tragedies for their own agenda.  If the time to discuss gun controls is not now, then when?  It seems that they approach gun control in the same way as the couple with the leak in their roof.  Wife says, “Please fix the leak, dear.”  Husband says, “No need, babe, it isn’t raining.”  Later, a rainstorm occurs.  Very wet and disgruntled wife says, “Will you please fix it now?”  Husband says smugly, “Can’t darlin’.  It’s too wet outside.”

Even a cursory look at differing countries will show startling differences in gun fatalities, and even a cursory glance at gun control laws in those countries will show you why.  This situation has passed ridiculous and moved into sad and pathetic.  If the GOP is such a party of Pro-Life principles, why don’t they care about the numbers of lives altered and lost through their fight against any changes to gun regulation?  No, don’t answer, I think we all know the reason for that, anyway.

My heart and thoughts go out to those affected by the shooting in Connecticut   I am so very sorry for you.  There aren’t any words to ease the pain, but I hope as a country we might finally learn something here.

*this  graphic was found on the Facebook page of Lefteous Indignation.  Check them out sometime.

Well, Here’s Your Problem……..


Buried somewhere in the mystical rituals that must be traversed to attain Republican Party Representative status, there must be some version of a voir dire wherein the aspiring candidate must prove that he or she has never read George Santayana.  They are at it again, this time in the Ohio House Committee.

Ohio House Votes To De-fund Planned Parenthood

The moral of this story is much the same as any number of frustrating and irritating political stories we have seen over the last few years.

Remember the election, GOP?  Yeah, the proverbial ass kickin’ you just received?  I know you are all scrambling around pointing fingers in any direction but your own.  Pundits and analysts are trying to figure out what went wrong, and how your projected numbers could have been so wrong.

This is what went wrong, guys.  This is the type of legislation you seem obsessed with pushing through, and we all know that.  We learned that if we want the government out of our love lives and our bodies, most of y’all must go.  Y’all learned nothing.  You are still trying to wage a war on women.  We don’t like it.  If you don’t stop it, we will smite you.

Charity, Assistance, & Helping Others………A Division In Outlook


I have been arguing with a family member today about extending a helping hand to others.  At some point it became clear to me that in this, as in politics, & religion, & pretty much our entire world-view, we would never see eye to eye.  If he weren’t family, I doubt we would even have any impetus to talk at all.  Thinking about it afterwards, I think his viewpoint and mine can be fairly said to represent the extreme ends of the Left/Right spectrum.

It seems to me that the majority of far lefters and Liberals are impassioned and moved to pay forward without conditions or strings, or at least with minimal ones.  We do not want to dictate terms or hold up hoops to jump through.  We don’t necessarily expect to induce those we aid to conform to our ideologies, and we are not very concerned with alternate or opposing viewpoints in the face of tragedy.  If we see a need or a place to lend a hand, we want to do just that.  We also do not expect reciprocation or immediate return, because our investment is in humanity in general.  We want to make things better for everyone, everywhere, not just ourselves & our own interests.

Far righters & Conservatives, on the other hand, seem to me to be far more driven by control issues.  Public works and other assistance programs are viewed with distrust and resentment.  This could be because when aid is given through these channels, each individual contributor (either by taxation or donation) is a step removed from decisions regarding perceived worthiness.

In conversations I have had with my mostly Republican, far right, Conservative family and friends, I see a fairly consistent theme in regard to who deserves help.  The main thing they all seem to agree on, and I totally oppose, is the sentiment that no help should be given until the cause, or person or persons, in need submit to qualifying standards.  It would seem, at least from them, that being in need is not enough.  You must prove to be sufficiently needy, and your need must be of an acceptable nature.

This is a fairly good reason why having sane, rational, reasonable Moderates from both sides is so important.

As a fairly extreme Liberal, I recognize that I and those like me occasionally need a gentle redirecting hand to help us do the most good for the largest group.  We can be easily diverted and spend an enormous amount of time and resources in areas that perhaps could have been better used elsewhere.  That in no way negates what good we might do in those ares, and it in no way means we should not continue to try to lend a hand wherever we can, but we need a balance.

Likewise, Conservatives need a nudge to be less interested in exactly what the needy do in their private lives, and more concerned with the actual benefit derived from the action of giving.  Assistance should actually be assistance.  It should not be a lever to force obedience, nor should it be a method of weeding out or penalizing those who disagree with you.

We need someone to bring us together, and to force us to play nice in the world’s sandbox.  Clearly, we won’t ever do it on our own.

A Plea For Reason………


For those readers in the US, I have been watching media sites since last night, and I am disheartened by your unrelenting attitude of petulance and  hateful jibes.  I have something to say, directly to all of y’all…………

C’mon, guys. Can we wind up the self pitying, sad, apocalyptic, and frankly mean posts, already?

I have some news for you.

My president won. Not because of Latinos, although they helped. Not because of enlightened women, although we helped. Not because of those in favor of freedom of choice, religion, and true liberty (for everyone instead of one cherry-picked group), although they helped.

No one minority or special interest group did this. We did it together. We read, we watched, and we listened. We talked, blogged, and spread our message far and wide.

There was no conspiracy. There was no blackout. There was simply a very large segment of the population who wanted to move forward. We don’t want war. We don’t want to pay higher & higher taxes so that the insanely wealthy can pay an even smaller percentage than they do now. We want accountability. We want progress.

We want the right to live without being micromanaged, and we want the same right for everyone else….including those who are currently continuing to throw mud and vitriol at us.

No, we aren’t lazy. No, we don’t want handouts. We want a safety net, for ourselves, and for everyone else. We care about all of our fellow citizens. We want to cooperate, and we want to see bipartisanship.

Let’s do this. Let’s do great things for all of us and stop rolling in the mud.

My President is your President. He is OUR President, so let’s show him the respect he earned and deserves.

What SHE Said………


I can’t say enough positive things about this blog. LGBT rights are dear to my heart, and this post took my thoughts and phrased them far, far better than I ever could. I’ll be visiting here often, I think.

AwayPoint

With marriage equality battles in front of the voters in four states, the faithful are out in flocks to defend traditional matrimony.  I don’t know exactly what traditional means in this context. It certainly doesn’t mean biblical, or it would include captive virgins and sex slaves and fathering children for your deceased brothers. It certainly doesn’t mean Mitt Romney’s version of traditional, since his great grandfather had five wives and his great-great grandfather had twelve.

But whatever.  I hope they fight tooth and nail and keep fighting until they are so old that their teeth and nails fall out. The battles are expensive, but they are worth every penny. Why? Because of all the nasty things that religion is doing in our country, beating up on gays is one of the most visibly nasty, especially to the young people who will be shaping our future. Teenagers, even many…

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